question of relationships

I have read the books you recommended to me on this topic. Many thanks for the advice. If there is anything else of a similar kind, I would be grateful for the reference. I came across this television program online, Man and Woman. Feel the Difference, which was aired on TVC. And once again, something that was more or less organized lost its logical structure. At present, these are my conclusions about mate choice: -genetic dissimilarity. The greater the genotypic divergence, the more pleasant the odor of a potential mate. -selection of phenotypic traits. As I understand it, this involves sexual imprinting, i.e. a man relies on the childhood-imprinted image of his mother, while a woman relies on that of her father. Although appearance is also genetically encoded information, so this may overlap with the first point. -the final choice of whom to form a pair bond with is made by the female. Moreover, her choice is determined, in addition to the factors mentioned above, by behavioral predispositions 'hardwired' at the genetic level. I am referring to the search for a 'prince' - an individual of high status, or one who presents himself as such. Status here implies both material resources and aggressiveness (the coercive means of acquiring wealth). I seem to have had a few more points in mind, but I am unable to formulate them at the moment; perhaps you can add them yourself. Essentially, could you explain what among the above is primary and what is secondary? Or are these all equivalent elements of a dynamic system code-named 'love'? From the books I concluded that instincts cannot be ignored, but they can be 'negotiated with'. After watching the program, doubts arose as to whether these 'negotiations' are merely an interpretation of the instincts that govern us, that is, a rationalization of arguments to fit an existing situation?